Dating how to play it cool
As Gillian Flynn wrote in the novel, this is the type of "girl" who "smiles in a chagrined, loving manner and lets [her man] do whatever [he] wants." She is basically "the girl who likes every fucking thing he likes and doesn’t ever complain." Hearing the concept laid out so succinctly validated so many of my own insecurities about how I fell short of societal expectations of how a woman should make herself appealing to men (and judging by the barrage of smart reaction pieces about the Cool Girl that followed, many women on the internet felt the same way). I am overly analytical, sometimes earnest, definitely neurotic, and extremely emotional. My college boyfriend was obsessed with prog rock, so I downloaded Genesis and Rush to my i Pod — even though I hated it.When I worked behind a bar in my early 20s, I started shooting Jameson to impress one of the regulars I thought was a fox, even though the taste made my stomach turn."Some of them will grow out of it and realize they like girls like you," they assured me..In college, she’d down whiskey shots and discuss batting averages.
I was so concerned with living up to what I thought these guys wanted that I forgot who Maria was.
From the time I was in elementary school, I was aware of the fact that there was a certain breed of woman that straight guys preferred: the Cool Girl.